Always At Choice: Strategies For Moving On After the Death of a Spouse or Life Trauma

"Thanks for bringing so much joy and peace into my hectic life. I'm very grateful for our friendship."

Thank you Larry! Thank you for helping me through the most difficult time in my life with my wife getting killed in an automobile accident and my becoming a widower with three young girls.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

Thank you for showing me the power of choice and gratitude.
Thank you for the love and friendship you have given me.

Consultant, Division of Palliative Medicine, Mayo Clinic Health System

Assistant Professor of Medicine

To have a choice is merely to face options; to be at choice is to inhabit them consciously and freely. Through vivid lessons drawn from his remarkable journey of loss, growth, and redemption, Larry Freeborg invites us to uncover and embody our deepest values and commitments. Who we are emerges not from conforming to norms or dogmas, but from choosing our authentic selves—deliberately and in full awareness. Only by staking ourselves in each moment do we author our own Being. Blending personal wisdom with philosophical and therapeutic insights and resources, and grounding his practical guidance in leading organizational practices, Freeborg offers a rich manual for “re-firing”: the art of reinventing our best selves—at any age and at every stage of life.

Over the past few years, I’ve had the privilege of getting to know Larry and benefiting from his insight and wisdom—now I’m thrilled to see him share that with the world through Always At Choice. Larry has helped me realize that no matter the circumstances, I am always at choice. I’m responsible for the choices I make, and the assumptions I carry often get in the way of my goals and relationships. That understanding has been transformational, not only in my own life but in the lives of many Larry has influenced throughout his life and career.

In Always At Choice, Larry offers readers a powerful and personal invitation into his journey—from heartbreak and loss to healing, clarity, and lifelong learning. His authenticity, humility, and hard-earned perspective challenge us to pause, reflect, and take ownership of our stories. This book will encourage you to view your experiences through a new lens and empower you to move forward with greater awareness, self-compassion, and intention.

As a communication and mindfulness coach, I often work with people facing the fear, uncertainty, and self-doubt that can arise when life doesn’t go as planned or hoped. A major turning point comes when someone realizes they do have choice – even around a circumstance they didn’t choose. That kind of courage runs alongside a fragile but powerful belief: that there is another possibility. In Always At Choice, Larry Freeborg speaks to that very journey. He doesn’t shy away from the pain of loss or from the pain we create for ourselves when we’re stuck inside beliefs that no longer serve us. I’ve found that one of the most liberating questions we can ask in difficult moments is: What’s possible here? This book helps us begin to explore that.